Vadim Zeland's "Reality Transurfing" Notes and Summaries, Chapters 1-3

These are notes and summaries of the first 3 and a half hours of listening to the Reality Transurfing audiobook.  The notes and summaries are a combination of direct quotes and summations in my own words.  This is only a fraction of the material.  This is a huge undertaking, but I'm motivated enough to see it through.  I hope that the length of this post is not a turn-off.  Here goes:

It's not a matter of changing oneself.  It's a matter of returning to oneself.

Mistakes can be made right.

Every theory of reality is but only one aspect.

Scripts cannot be changed, but they can be chosen.  Choose scripts that are to one's liking.

To escape a pendulum, be neutral towards it, and then ignore it.  Focus on something else, not in a way to directly avoid the pendulum, but with a 'neither here nor there' mentality.

Being empty inside stops pendulums from hooking into oneself.  This is why Eckhart Tolle's works benefit people.  Being present beyond thoughts disentangles people from pendulums.  

Focusing on what one hates only brings more of what one hates, because hating something is focusing on it, which gives it energy.

If someone is behaving in a menacing manner toward oneself, don't react.  Work with them in a way that steers them in a desired direction.  Visualize them getting better in various ways.

In a tense situation, doing something unpredictable can render a pendulum inert.

If something negative happens, always look for something good in it, as there always is.

Thought-energy contributes to lifelines.  Being angry about something negative happening only makes more negative things happen in the future.  

Taking in negative thought-energy and giving out negative thought-energy poisons one's lifeline.  

Freedom from pendulums unlocks genius, but ensnarement in a vacuum happens when not being a part of any pendulums at all.  Pendulums can be used for achieving desired goals.  Just be aware of what they are and don't let them harvest oneself.

There are simple solutions to complex problems.  

If consistency is exercised, positivity can beget positivity.

Be grateful for everything oneself has.  Find joy in all the things in life that would otherwise be taken for granted.  Have a positive attitude.  This encourages positivity and abundance in the future.  

Change is made through making a habit of using constructive strategies.  

If life is extremely difficult and harsh for a long period of time, take heart, because the law of balance must take effect and bring the opposite - life must become easy and content at some point.

Balancing forces remove excess potential.  Someone over-prioritizing their job creates excess potential, and balancing forces step in and can create depression and health problems for the worker.  

Regarding one's job - give of your hands.  Give of your head.  But do not give of your heart.  You did not come into this world simply to work for a pendulum.  Your efficiency at work will increase when detaching, because then there is no excess potential.  Only put your heart into your work if it's your truly valued goal.

Don't give too much importance to what is valued or anti-valued, because this generates excess potential.  When there is excess potential, balancing forces step in and bring forth negative consequences.  

Battling and criticizing oneself creates excess potential, and creates what one does not want.  When being dissatisfied with the world, this goes to war with a multitude of pendulums.  No longer criticizing both oneself and the world is very beneficial.

Being happy brings forth creative energy, which does not create excess potential.  Taking pleasure in tiny details is very empowering.

When faced with misfortune or a complex problem - "This too shall pass."

When faced with a destructive pendulum, do not fight it.  Quietly walk away.  The pendulum may tell oneself that there is nowhere else to go, but this is just the pendulum trying to control oneself.

Love brings forth harmony.  Dependent idealization and obsession ruins love.  Putting one's object of affection on a pedestal inevitably results in future disillusionment.  The more someone wants traits in another, the more excess potential is created.  

We become in danger of becoming those who we judge, and/or being with those we judge.  Example: A woman who hates drunkard men is in danger of having one as a partner in the future.  Whatever happens in life, never scorn anyone, because this puts one in the shoes of those one scorns.

Try loving without expectation of reward.  When there is love without possession, dependency is avoided, and lifelines come through that allow for love to be received.  

Comparison of oneself to others in the world, whether in an inferior or superior way, creates excess potential.  

Striving to prove oneself - excess potential.  Self-work, however, is beneficial.  

Trying to manipulate and change the world creates massive imbalance.  Transurfing means choosing one's destiny without compromising anyone else's interests.  This is much more effective than storming ahead and overcoming all obstacles in one's way.  "Choose" instead of "change."

People are mostly preoccupied with themselves.  One is not the center of attention, so one doesn't have to worry about how others perceive oneself.  

There is a hidden charm to shyness.  Let go of fighting shyness to avoid looking clumsy.  Let go of fighting unwanted 'personal flaws.'

The more one wants something, the less likely one is to get it.  Excessive desire creates excess potential, which stops one from obtaining what one wants.

There are 3 types of desire:

1.  Active desire – Desire to have something and do what is required to get it.  This desire is reached because the desire is fueled into action.

2.  Inactive desire – Desire without action taken.  This represents excess potential in its pure form, which causes great torment.  This desire lingers in the energy field.  Best case scenario:  Wastes the energy of the suffering carrier.  Worst case scenario:  Attracts all kinds of problems.  

3.  Object-dependent desire – The most insidious of desires.  Great significance to the object of desire creates great dependency on the object of desire, which creates massively strong excess potential.  "If I achieve this, my situation will improve dramatically.  If I don't achieve this, my life will lose all meaning."  "If do this, I'll prove to myself and everyone else what I'm worth.  If I don't do this, I'm worth nothing."  "If I get this, it would be great.  It would be terrible if I didn't." - and so forth.  Once dependent on the object of desire, one is drawn into such a violent whirlpool, one will exhaust oneself in the struggle.  Eventually, when it's realized that one's efforts have led to nothing, one will let go of the desire.  Balanced forces will restore equilibrium with indifference to one's suffering - suffering which was all because of a strong attachment to the fulfillment of a desire.  This is what happens when one dish is placed on one of the scales, and everything else is placed onto the other.

Only the first type of desire can be fulfilled, because this desire is transformed into pure intention, free of excess potential.

The greater an event is valued, the more likely it is to fall apart in some way.

We pay only for the excess potential that we create.

If you attribute huge value to what you have, sooner or later, balanced forces will take it away.  If what one wants to receive is hugely important to oneself, there is little chance of actually getting it unless one lowers the stakes.  The more one wants to avoid something, the more likely one is to come into contact with it.

"I should be rewarded." - excess potential.  "I should be punished." - excess potential.

There is no justice in nature.  There is only balance. 

One's conscience can cause excess potential.  This is why shrewd people with less of a conscience obtain power more easily, because they don't create excess potential with guilt.  Don't allow anyone to manipulate oneself with guilt.  

Asking for forgiveness releases the excess potential of guilt.  The energy of the accusation is released.  However, don't overdo remorse.  Ask for forgiveness once, and once only.